7-Steps to Accepting What You Can't Change
Posted on April 25, 2022 by DeShawn Snow, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
How to accept reality without liking it, agreeing with it, or feeling good about it.
I created this roadmap to serve as a launchpad for you to exhale and begin doing whatever you need to do from where you are. After my divorce, I wasted years numbing my pain and running from my reality. I was broken and stuck until I finally decided to put my “big girl panties on” and do the work.
The steps I share in this roadmap will help you to master your emotions, step out of suffering, and get on with the business of living life on life’s terms.
Accepting Reality When It Seems Unacceptable
Sometimes there are things that may happen in your life that you are unable to fix or change. And most times you may not know the reason WHY. Rather than fighting against what already is and refusing to allow what’s already been allowed, you just have to have the faith to face it and practice radical acceptance.
Radical acceptance is when you stop fighting reality. It’s simply agreeing that this is the way it is right now. It does not mean that you like it, agree with it, or feel good about it. Acceptance is all about now and has nothing to do with the future.
Acceptance is the most important and necessary part of the healing process. When you hide behind good vibes instead of facing up to the reality of your life, you have a problem. Resisting reality only delays healing and adds suffering to your pain.
We can’t avoid pain but we can control suffering. Suffering is what you do with that pain and the interpretation you put on the pain. You must be honest about the issues that are causing you pain and be open to take the next steps to fix it.
By accepting that it is what it is, you give the problem less power over you and you can begin to move forward. I created this seven step roadmap to help you cope with a crisis in a new way. It’ll allow you to keep your emotions in check so that you can free yourself up to start changing yourself in relation to the situation.
7-Steps to Radical Acceptance
• Step One: Accept it for what it is
• Step Two: Shift your perspective
• Step Three: Engage in the process
• Step Four: Take your thoughts captive
• Step Five: Discern the facts
• Step Six: Choose to forgive
• Step Seven: Surrender to now
This checklist is just an overview of the essential steps needed to give you the courage to face the truth and stop denying it.
