Guaranteed Compliment
Posted on April 13, 2022 by Lois Lavrisa , One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
"Hello gorgeous. I love you. You are valuable. You are worthy. I trust you and I have your back."
It’s time for you!
Okay. Here I go.
What I’m about to chat about today might seem a little different, perhaps even uncomfortable. Because, if you are like the majority of us, we don’t do this enough.
We have no problem at all telling our loved ones, and friends, and neighbors and even total strangers how nice they look, or how kind they are, or how wonderful we think they are.
But it’s often difficult to turn this around and do this to ourselves.
Some of us might have been told that that kind of talk to ourselves is arrogant and narcissistic.
According to research, “Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.”
Wow. Putting it that way, can you see how important it is to have self love?
It’s anything but arrogant or narcissistic. So, you. might be asking, how do we do this whole self-love thing?
The study goes on to say there are several ways to practice self-love which include:
Becoming mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want.
Taking actions based on need rather than want. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
Practicing good self-care. You will love yourself more when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.
Making room for healthy habits. Start truly caring for yourself by mirroring that in what you eat, how you exercise, and what you spend time doing. Do stuff, not to “get it done” or because you “have to,” but because you care about you.
Why not start today with something simple.
Look in the mirror and say: “Hello gorgeous. I love you. You are valuable. You are worthy. I trust you and I have your back.” Of course, feel free to use words that feel aligned with you.
The point is to not let your self-esteem, worth, rely on someone other than yourself.
You have the power and control to make yourself feel good. And you deserve it!
And bonus! Practicing self love you get instant compliments :)
Here’s to YOU-
Lois
