3 Reasons Why Relationships Fail
Posted on April 01, 2022 by Dr Loretta Billoups, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
A look into the three major reasons relationships plumet.
3 Reasons Why Relationships Fail Let’s face it, relationships are difficult. A healthy relationship will include some disagreements but, for the most part, the couple is content and they are able to reconcile. In many relationships this is the case, however, there are many others where challenges arise that can cause a relationship to fail. Although relationships come to an end for many reasons, lack of trust, infidelity, and finances seem to be the repeat offenders. Let’s dissect them.Lack of Trust:
Issues with trust can go two ways. First, one or both partners may enter the relationship with issues relating to trust. The loss of trust in the prior relationship that went unresolved has now seeped its way into the current relationship. The same nagging feeling that something isn’t right anxiety and fear, and suspicions are now a daily fixture with your current partner. Although they may have never given your reasons to doubt them, they continuously pay for the sins of your previous partner. The second area in which trust can become an issue in a relationship is when your partner deliberately violates your trust. In the current relationship, they may lie about their whereabouts, use the family’s hard-earned savings for personal ventures, or become unfaithful. No matter what, the violation of trust is lost and the relationship is now in jeopardy.Infidelity:
One of the biggest violations of them all is infidelity. Now for some people, this is not a deal-breaker. Some couples are able to forgive, maybe go to therapy and eventually reconcile. For others, it’s not that easy, nor is forgiveness an option. Issues related to trust are now at the surface and a host of emotions such as anger and sadness are soon creeping their way into your thoughts. It’s like experiencing the seven stages of grief. There is disbelief and shock, denial, guilt and pain, bargaining, anger, depression, and acceptance. It is not uncommon to cycle through these stages multiple times. Oftentimes, the partner that was cheated on begins to look at themselves in a different light. Thoughts such as I wasn’t good enough and what’s wrong with me also begin to consume their thoughts. Infidelity is painful and anyone who has experienced this would agree that it is one of the worst transgressions.
Finances:
The infamous money troubles. Finances are a major part of any couple’s relationship. In some relationships, there is typically a breadwinner, the one that makes the most money, if not all of the money, and pays the bills. In some relationships, partners have agreements that one person stays home to raise the kids while the other works or both partners opt to work and financially provide for the household. Financial problems develop in the relationship when there is a loss of income, the economy takes a dive, the breadwinner no longer wants to be in that role, or one or both partners are spending too much money. Any of these scenarios can cause a rift in the relationship. In some cases, these issues can be resolved with a financial advisor and strategies on how to better manage your money. However, in some cases, the relationship is not salvageable and inevitably it is agreed upon that it is best to go your separate ways.
As mentioned previously, relationships are difficult as it is, and these factors can only add stress, anxiety, frustration, and ultimately depression. Whether you’re married or have a significant other, these components can cause partners to go their separate ways, and ultimately the relationship will fail. If any of these factors resonate with you, know that you have options and you are not alone. Many relationships have been salvaged despite a lack of trust, infidelity, or issues related to finances. Sometimes you just need support and that can come in many forms. One way is to work with a relationship coach, whether individually or as a couple, and that’s where I come in. If you’ve read this article in its entirety and feel that you can use some help in this area, go to the contact page and schedule your free consultation.All the best,
Dr. B.
