What is "love"...when you're single?
Posted on September 25, 2011 by Nicole K, One of Thousands of Health and Fitness Coaches on Noomii.
Many people are wondering out there how to have love in their life and be single. Here's an article to inspire that kind of love you're yearning for!
Healthy “love” when you’re not in a relationship is directed toward yourself, your close family and friends, and to the world if you have that much to give :).
Love when you’re single is also not getting wasted, shopping beyond your budget or over-eating/under-eating.
Loving yourself is really beginning when you are able to remember all the great things anyone has ever said about you and believe these things to be true, 100%.
It’s when you start to do a bad old habit, and immediately stop yourself and choose to do something like work out, review your budget, meditate/pray, reach a goal or create a list of goals if you don’t have any! ANYONE can be the healthy person. Healthy single people who love themselves are not special, they are just making choices to believe in things and do things that benefit them.
As soon as you start to blame someone or something else for the things you don’t like in your single life (ex. why you can’t get a man/woman, how something’s wrong with you) Stop. And take responsibility for your circumstances. Full responsibility. (Not like you’re wrong or something’s wrong with you) but just get that you are the cause of your life AND take action.
What is it that you love to do? Do it. Quit making excuses, find a way to do it.
Who is it that you are still not “over”? Erase their name, get rid of love material (or hide it/give to a friend to hide ;). The key is truly out of sight out of mind. AND, any time you start to obsess about them, get in action. Play basketball, workout, work on your goals, read your favorite book, do something spiritual. Soon you will no longer be thinking about them, and noticing how great your life is.
Did I mention how great you are? You are great. Nothing you could tell me about your past, present or future would not make me think any less than you are great! So go do what a great person would do!
P.S. Just because you move on from someone to be healthy doesn’t limit your future. You may get back together. Anything is possible. But more is possible when you are healthy.
Take care of you.
-Nicole
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