Step Back from Brink

Posted on September 19, 2011 by Tom Blair, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.

Step back from the brink.
The secret and the first step in tuning up your relationship is to stop worrying about what went wrong and begin to work on making it right. By utilizing just a few relationship building tools you can tune up your relationship and your problems will shrink, divorce will no longer be a threat and other people will become irrelevant.
The first step in the process may well be the hardest. Stop talking about the affair, the attention you’re not getting, or whatever. If your timing is off, trying to solve your problems will damage your marriage and make it less likely that you’ll ever find resolution.
Instead, every day, remind each other of the good times you have had. Remember and talk about the fun you have had. Don’t talk about what has gone wrong, talk about what went right. *