The Lies We Bought as Love

Posted on September 07, 2011 by Piercarla Garusi, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.

What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us to suffer?What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us not to be happy?What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us not to love ourselves?What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us to put up with situations that are not good for us?What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us to stay stuck in manipulative or abusive relationships or to be treated badly? What are the lies we bought as love that cause us to be abusive? What are the lies we bought as love that in the name of eliminating separation, are causing pain to people?What are the lies we bought as love that cause us not to ascend? If we look around, how many people are suffering of situations that can be avoided? And I am talking in families, workplaces, communities, and in the world at large. There is so much judgment and bullying in society to young and adults, that is causing people to suffer from social anxiety, depression and even suicide. If we just found the statistics, I think we would be shocked.Love and abuse are so confused and so much abuse is done in the name of love. And abuse might be not recognized or even justified by cultural or societal beliefs. How many lives have been destroyed by abuse? There are so many rules and have tos on how to be loving, that are putting people in destructive traps thinking that that is care or communion. How right are we of the beliefs we are holding? And these beliefs might come from society, from culture, from religion, from education, from upbringing, from peers, etc., from the media.Here are a few important points:- awarenessWe need to become aware of the lies we have bought as love, and see them as lies. They cause people, they cause you to suffer – would God/Source/Consciousness, however concept you have of Him/Her, ever want us to suffer? The answer is absolutely no. These lies are preventing a positive change on the Planet. These lies also prevent our ascension.- accountability/responsibilityHow much denial or justification do we see of bad behavior, not simply from the people doing the behavior, but from society or culture? Until we become accountable, until we take responsibility for our behavior and we recognize it as such, we will not be able to change.- blame/guiltMany people do not want to recognize how they have behaved because unfortunately the world is still functioning from blame, guilt and wrongness. We need to get out to that paradigm, because it is preventing people from changing, it is preventing the Planet from healing, and it is keeping the behavior in place. Yes, the behavior might be wrong, but we need to take away the label of wrong as judgment. It was a choice the person made out of their consciousness, probably out of the teachings they had received in their life. As they recognize the lies they hold and let them go, they can make a better choice for themselves and for the whole.- respectWe need to enter in a paradigm of sacred respect for each individual, without exception, on this Planet. Once we recognize the uniqueness and truth of each person, much healing will take place. And probably the best question we can ask ourselves is:As the Infinite Beings we truly are, what does it mean to Love? And start from there …Piercarla Garusi Copyright 2011Piercarla Garusi is a spiritual coach and painter. Much of her coaching work is currently focused on improving the way we treat one another, with new workshops just being created. More information can be found on www.pgcoaching.co.uk. Her spiritual paintings ‘Art from the Soul’ are for healing and a shift in consciousness. You can find more explanation, view them, find information on exhibitions and healing projects on www.piercarla-paintings.co.uk.