Rejection ... a Great Tool for Personal Freedom
Posted on August 24, 2021 by Khalid Alhosni, One of Thousands of Entrepreneurship Coaches on Noomii.
Rejection is an acquired perception, a fabricated reactive stimuli. If seen differently, it might just become a great tool for personal freedom
Just like anything and everything in life if unprepared for, rejections are very hard to accept, to the point they make you feel as if they are matters of life or death. And they are, except instead of Life or Death, they are matters of psychological Freedom or Imprisonment.
I’ve read a lot about training myself to accept rejections as a form of preparation but it was always empowering till the real thing takes place. All the preparedness goes out the window and I kept thinking its because it’s me conforming back with my long been engrained old habits. And somewhat that’s true. I thought to myself this can’t and shouldn’t be the only solution, there must be a better solution.
My Solution
After many failed trials of which all ended up in rejection avoidance. I sat with myself and analysed what actually happens to me when I’m rejected. Here’s what I found out: I always approached dilemmas expecting either win or lose propositions. Win was no rejection while Lose is the outcome of rejection. Then I asked myself, why is it I AM either the winner or loser dependent on rejection? What about the counterparty to those engagements, why aren’t they exposed to the same win or lose outcomes by my own standards?
The moment I factored in the opposite person within the same equation, it struck me to wonder how I can actually prepare for any and all situations just before engagement and find out if I was worth winning with total independence from any other person, so that if confronted with a rejection, I would gladly accept it because I now see the other person as the losing party as an outcome of the rejection. I can’t tell you how freeing just the mere thought of it gave me.
My Next Step
So, I decided right now, August 2019, to build up a situation/drive for something I believe I’m very strong in and start approaching as many prospects as possible, not only NOT fearing rejection but actually welcoming it very openly, baring in mine that I do my basic homework before any meeting, so that if I’m:
A. Rejected: I paint a large smile on my face because the other person is at loss. Plus I learn why that happened with vivid clarity
B. Accepted: I’m thankful as ever for all the blessings in my life and see how I can build a much more confident a free living.
Last Words,,,,
Live up to your God given potential. Its huge, don’t limit it with the fear of rejection.
