Growth Is Not Comfortable
Posted on July 16, 2021 by Alysha Chin, One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.
Everything around you will make you feel too trapped to stay but too scared to leave. There are so many factors that play a role in keeping you stuck.
Growth is Not Comfortable
When you are working at a job that does not align with you, you can feel it in your bones. There is a sense of displacement and discomfort. It can feel like boredom, resentment, unhappiness.
The thought of leaving trickles in, if you allow yourself to, you might day dream a completely different career. Thoughts of a life changing switch might pop into your head, using skills and talents that you would never consider for work. If you don’t immediately shut down these thoughts, in order to keep your hopes at bay, you might push this dream a little further and search what kind of jobs use the skills you actually enjoy.
Then you get overwhelmed.
It requires degrees, years of schooling, years of experience, and the pay? That’s not what you wanted. So, you tell yourself that staying in this job is fine. That you can continue to do what you are doing. You choose stability and the illusion of safety.
Eventually that discomfort grows until you can no longer convince yourself that this is worth it. But now more time has passed and making a change feels more overwhelming.
And I am not going to pretend it’s not. Change is overwhelming, growth is not comfortable. But neither is being unhappy, neither is continuously betraying yourself and what you want. Denying yourself the ability to use your gifts, talents, and skills hurts more than the discomfort of growth.
That initial hurdle is the hardest because once you can push yourself to move in the direction towards what you want you get to do what you WANT. And yes, the fear and panic does not go away and it they keep coming back in. BUT when you are running towards yourself – if you stop that run and sit down and feel how you felt in that unhappy job you will know which of those feelings is scarier. The fear of change and growth or the fear of denying yourself that change and growth. Growth is not comfortable but neither is staying the same.
