Your Greatest Gift

Posted on March 12, 2021 by Randy DesRocher, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.

“Your greatest gift for the world is the one you most want to give yourself.“

These words came through me in a session sometime last year. It was one of those moments of deep presence, in a palpable bubble of energy distinct from our surroundings.

I say the words came through me because I hadn’t thought of them, they just spilled out of my mouth and I felt tingles in my body as I heard them. These words hung in the air for a while, suspended in the space between us, allowing the resonance to ripple through our bodies like a choir in perfect harmony.

Since that day these words have flowed from me towards others – in a space of deep presence supporting another being on their journey home.

Ironically, it took a handful of times for me to hear those words as I offered them to others until my gift finally became clear.

For me, that gift is Acceptance.

It was the driving force for me to amass over a hundred trophies and medals in youth sports and fueled my obsessive training as a college athlete. It compelled me to work 60+ hr weeks to be a good provider in my first marriage.

This unrelenting focus on Doing and achieving led to burnout in both cases – the result of allowing my worth to hinge on the approval of my mother and then my wife. I was only as good as my last performance.

They each had clear guidelines of acceptable behavior, and it was squarely in the status quo.

What I longed for was to be accepted for Being me, exactly as I am with my flaws and my weirdness, regardless of the score or my last month of production.

While I am immensely grateful for each of them in my life, it has been a long road to unravel and acknowledge the many ways I denied my own existence in exchange for accolades.

On this path, I have learned to rest, and to allow myself to Be.

I have learned to embrace myself as a wonderfully unique expression of human.

I have learned to give zero fucks about others’ criticisms.

I have learned to never place my worth outside of myself.

I give myself this gift of Acceptance as best I can in every moment.

And when I don’t, I accept it as part of my growth.

The Journey continues and I Love it.

And so, here I am, with open arms, offering Unconditional Acceptance, welcoming ALL of YOU: your quirks, your idiosyncrasies, the parts of you that you have hidden away.