What Does my Mother have do with it?
Posted on January 17, 2021 by Shmuel Brody, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
When you're stuck, external aids may not be the solution, a past relationship you think you're okay with may be in your way.
Sometimes what you think is missing is structure and accountability, so you put it in place. It works for a while…then it doesn’t.
What’s wrong? You’re looking past yourself. A client will come because they’re stuck. When questioned “what’s in the way?” they’ll have no idea or think it’s something external. Often though it is the effect of a past relationship that they’re running into. Huh? They admit they’re having trouble dating but “what does my mother or father have to do with that? Besides I’ve made peace with them! We have an okay relationship today!” Having “worked it out” with that person does not mean you’ve worked it out within yourself. Take a good look again, the difficulty and solution are closer than you think.