Next year won't be different unless YOU change.
Posted on December 29, 2020 by Michelle Gauthier, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
You believe that a new year, job, relationship, city etc will change your situation. Nothing will change unless you are willing to change.
2021. “This will be my year”.
That’s what I keep seeing. People fed up with 2020 and all the ways that this year got ruined. Next year has to be better. Right? It’s the fairy tale we tell ourselves.
Let me ask you something. Did you say that last year too? 2019 was a rough year for a lot of people, myself included. I remember thinking “glad this year is coming to an end, because next year will be amazing!” Then the pandemic hit and “2020 is ruined”. This is the cycle for most people. One year is insurmountably awful so the next year HAS to be better. How long has this cycle been happening for you? How many times have you told yourself that next year will be different?
Let me clarify some things for you. The next year will not change unless YOU change. You are bringing all that you believe, think, feel, and focus on with you wherever you go. That could be a new year, a new city, a new relationship, a new job. Have you been attributing those circumstances to outside forces? This year is awful because ___; the pandemic, I had to stay home, I couldn’t travel, my hobbies couldn’t happen because things were closed, that person was a dick, I lost my job. Sure, any of those could be true, but what are you focusing on? Are you focusing on how to adapt to the situations and find new ways to have fun or make great memories? Or are you focusing on the things you cannot do?
I know your first response is going to be “But Michelle, you don’t understand, it wasn’t my fault, xyz
happened and that’s why I couldn’t do A and B.” I understand. That’s how I used to think to, until my attention was brought to owning my responsibility of my thoughts and actions. That is when I truly began to understand that I had more power of my life than I believed. Give yourself the power.
This year I kept my promise to myself. It was great but was that because nothing awful happened?
Definitely not! It started early with a rejected proposal. I fell in and out of my depression state more
than once with a partner and family that doesn’t fully understand it. I got a concussion and physically could not do the things I enjoyed. I thought my relationship was going to end which also led to my first anxiety attack. Did I blame outside forces, sure. I didn’t understand my own self-worth and power. Did I blame the year itself? NO because what it says on the calendar does not actually affect what I do with my life.
Were there great things that happened? ABSOLUTELY! I took a certification course that thankfully corresponded with losing my job during lockdown and assisted me in starting my business. I re-evaluated how I show up in my life and the rolls I play in every situation. I took a leadership training program to own my life in all its glory. I’ve grown, changed, and adapted to build a stronger relationship with myself and others. I discovered how I really feel about my job and where my passion for work is. I have taken awful situations and found the good. Will January 1st, 2021 be the best possible day because December 31st, 2020 ended? I can guarantee not. This new year, what are you bringing into it? Are you changing who you are being to have a new experience? Are you changing how you think about yourself and the world, to see it differently? Are you challenging yourself to find the good and the new opportunities that are right in front of you?
Until you do that, nothing is going to change. YOU have to change to get the things you want to have. Going into this new year, ask yourself: What do I GET to do? Who do I GET to be? Is this the year you break the cycle and you change?
