WEEDING IT OUT

Posted on November 18, 2020 by PRIYA KHOSLA, One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.

My some mornings usually go in taking care of my flowers in my flower pots. Pruning the not so nice leaves and flowers ,changing the water, reducing the stem length so that the flowers get a new lease of life and live longer and better than before,

As i was doing this , this morning , i realised that what we do with our lives is never this. Our everyday and every moment occurrence adds something to us ..some a great feeling and at other times a not so good feeling ;this negative emotion is the weed.we don’t weed out the complaints, the emotions built out of the situations that made us feel bad, we don’t share it with the person who we have angst against in that moment and even with our own selves..

The weeds if not taken off or out regularly then become our lens through which we start seeing people and the world…sometimes they become so deep rooted that instead of helping us grow , they take away from the freshness of the pure flower that exists in us .
Being a mother of a 3 year old, i see that children take off the weeds so brilliantly…i remember telling her something one day that was not so encouraging,her instant reaction was to check in why i said that and if i really meant it. Simple.

Infact as adults ,we do just the opposite , we build more assumptions, we give meaning to what did not happen, we open up the past so that our mind can just validate what we feel and we go down the hole even further…piece by piece removing all freshness in our lives.We just know how to complicate our lives.
The pandemic brought in a lot of changes to everyones life including mine, a lot of extra work and stretch to the body and mind. I was building up frustration and resentment for being in this situation and the self compassion was being replaced with a sense of worthlessness…instead of weeding out the layers i was adding and perpetuating my old beliefs even more..till one day an emotional tsunami hit me and everyone around.
Weeding out the not so good and building it a life system to remain FRESH and ALIVE is a need not a want more so at these times. Here are my learnings
Daily communication with partner/loved one if something is troubling you or you did not like about something said , talk about it , weed it out before you sleep- so that you retain the freshness each day.
Daily communication with self through writing- see what were your low moments, why – what can you do about it the next time it shows up. See your most joyous moments – why , what can you learn from it so that you build more as a system of living.
Do a brain dump-( every once a week) if something is really hurting , write about it, pull it all out so you feel better and flush it down.( symbol of removing it- can be anything else)
Go for a run and do some exercise </strong>-the new lease of energy will not only make you better it might just propel you to talk to the person who made you feel not so good or even to yourself so that you feel much a new surge of being.

Inculcate these as daily practices and experience a new freshness to being alive !!
Priya khosla

Life and Transformation Coach