Strategies & Tactics Are Worth Nothing if You Don't Take Care of This

Posted on November 03, 2020 by Louis Morrissette, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Growing is hard to do. Moving out of your comfort zone where your mind has kept you safe. It’s why many would-be entrepreneurs stay in their 9 to 5. It’s scary to make that leap…. Especially for perfectionists.

What if it doesn’t work? What would that mean for me?

I’ve asked myself those questions so many times and it’s always sent me in a whirlwind of defeating thoughts and “proof” that it’s a bad idea.

I attached my self-worth to my results and success. “If I fail, it means I’m worthless.” Any sort of “proof” of something not giving me results was a disaster. I can’t say I’m completely out of the woods yet either.

You see I spent the last year forcing something that was not going to happen. I had no clear direction, wasn’t taking consistent action and was blaming my lack of results on my worth.

How do you think this affected my progress? I showed up with low energy, hesitated to reach out to potential clients, pressed delete a thousand times on videos I made.

I was terrified to show who I am and what I can do to help people, yet I told myself and others I was doing great.

I signed up for a few programs spending over $20k to get “the right strategy and tactics”. I read a few books that could help my figure out and think through my business.

Some experts were saying one thing and the next said the opposite when it came to business strategies. Argh! So frustrating!

None of this addressed my underlying problem: my mindset and my perfectionism.

A few months ago I signed up for yet another program bringing up my total to $25k. This one was very different. It was all about mindset, accessing my spiritual side that I never have before, and finding my voice.

I was able to understand how perfectionism has been a curse in building my business. I changed perspective and started letting go of the immense pressure that I carried.The proverbial weight of the world on my shoulders.

I carried the weight of my self-worth, my entire future, my marriage, and what felt like the only thing that kept me from literally dying.

Talk about heaviness! No wonder I couldn’t get anything done. There was a life or death scenario going on in my head constantly. Black or white. All or nothing. There was no learning, only failure.

Mix depression in with perfectionism and you’ve got a dangerous cocktail.

Learning to release that pressure and manage my mind and my thoughts through various tools and leaning on spirituality has made me show up in a much more powerful way that has connected with more people than ever.

This morning I was thinking of where I stand with my business. I have had a total of 8 clients in the last year, only one of which has been a paying client.

The only reason I have not had more paying clients has been a fear of rejection and avoidance of shame. What if they say no? I’d be embarrassed. That also triggered a ton of feelings of being a fraud, not good enough, impostor syndrome, Call it what you want, it’s all the same thing.

I was only looking for what was wrong or could be wrong. I was biased into looking for it.

I have been using my purposeful imperfection technique with myself for a few months. It’s doing things to prove that I can. Sometimes you need a little proof to push you into doing something consistently.

Flipping the script and thinking of what if they said yes started a shift.

Doing exclusively live videos and getting comments from it. The point here being I would show up in my most authentic way, with all the imperfections that come with it.

Writing a post and not editing it for it to come out as a stream of consciousness. (Like this one)

The energy you get for letting go is like being a kid again. We spend our lives building up this huge rule book based on societal norms and what we’ve learned throughout our experiences.

These rules are for the most part completely arbitrary. It’s like throwing paint in the air and saying that whatever painting it creates on the ground is the only painting possible.

Lean into your intuition. Notice when you enjoy something more than another. What values of yours can you lean into? Which ones are being trampled in your current life. What ideas are clashing in your mind?

Remember also that you are the most important person in your life. Without you, your life doesn’t exist. Don’t live someone else’s life. You are worthy of love. You are enough. Your true being (the one buried under all the walls you’ve put up) is capable of anything.

Perfectionism doesn’t define you. You can change.

If you’re curious to know what it would like to work together with a coaching system that has already helped my current clients change their lives, send me a message and we’ll chat!