Be Yourself in Relationships

Posted on October 30, 2020 by Elizabeth Smith, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.

“To thine own self be true.” Shakespeare

Are you trying to be someone that you are not? What I mean by this, are you wearing clothes that you normally would not wear to impress someone? Are you doing things that you do not want to do but you do it because you want someone to notice you? Are you saying things on dating websites to be noticed by potential partners? To have a successful relationship, it starts with presenting the true you in the relationship.

After working with many clients, oftentimes, I hear how they want to fit in or catch the attention of someone. They find themselves doing and saying things that are not an accurate representation of who they are. In the end, they do not feel good about the relationship any longer because they established a relationship under false pretense. If this resonates with you, you are at risk of relationship failure. One essential tip that could be beneficial how to present your true self in a relationship and be with the partner you want, do not be someone you are not.

Do not be someone that you think people want to see or be around. When you are able to be yourself, relationships feel natural. For example, if you enjoy wearing a T-shirt with your hair up in a ponytail, then do just that. If you love wearing sneakers then wear sneakers, be comfortable. If you love staying in and watching movies, then say that. If you do not like doing something be honest with that person.

If you find yourself altering who you are to make someone else happy, ask yourself one question, what would you like to start happening in your relationship(s)? If you can answer that question, you are being yourself. You have a clearer vision as to who you are and what you want. These are a good indications the true you is present, not someone you are not.

It starts with you. Be proud of who you are because there is only one of you.