Growing up in a sex-negative household

Posted on June 11, 2020 by Kara Kanai, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.

Growing up in a sex-negative household with zero guidance really set me up for disaster when it came to my future relationships. My parents never spoke of the word “sex” and even if it was brought up and was something dirty that only bad people did or that sex was basically a sin my mother described. These sexual beliefs lead me down a long path of failure with every relationship I ended up in was always bad and with time they got worse. They became more abusive verbally then physically and then thinking that I actually deserved to have men treat me like that. Years later I would discover a horrific event that changed my outlook on everything. Getting raped on my dad’s bed by two boys I went to school with, that I thought were my friends, stripped all my dignity away from me. Trust me it took me years to discover myself again and forgive them boys for what they did took counseling, self-taught practice that I use to this day. Overall, I feel like the more guidance I would had understand my sexuality, love and healthy relationships the more I would of steered clear from unhealthy relationships. I guess that’s what brought me to become a sex & relationship coach today because I would never want others to be mislead like I was. I rather people be coached and taught how healthy relationships look like and how to identify unhealthy ones. Learning to love yourself is essential to having healthy relationships with others, you can’t just skip a step. So with my guidance I feel like I can change the world one person at a time with my Millennial coaching. Creating a safe place for people to learn about sexuality and more sex-positive attitude about it instead of it’s taboo title. This sex revolution in 2020 is here and having all my clients feel sexually liberated is key for me. Most of all I want to see my clients thrive in their intimate lives and create closer bonds than ever before.