The Power of Words

Posted on April 21, 2020 by Syed Danial Alattas, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

WORDS HAVE POWER – Here is how you can learn to use them to elevate yourself & others.

1) “Words when said & articulated in the right way can change someone’s mind. They can alter someone’s belief. You have the power to bring someone from the slums of life & make a successful person or destroy someone’s happiness using only your words.”

- When we were young, we all had ambitions unfiltered by limits. Until people came along & closed them off with their own limiting beliefs. This is how some dreams die.

- Remember a time when you didn’t believe in yourself. When you didn’t think you could run that marathon, hike that hill, become a parent or find love again. Then someone came along with pure intentions & the right words like “I believe in you”, “Lets do this together”, or “What If?”

- Remember: One word can make all the difference.

2) “A simple choice of ‘word’ can make the difference between someone accepting or denying your message. You can have a beautiful thing to say but say it in the wrong word & it’s gone.”

- Words said in Anger / Intimidation / Threats:
People completely shut off & your words will be that much harder to reach them next time. Or they might even do the opposite of what you said just to spite you.

- Words that convey Insignificance / Belittling:
When you listen to respond or speak without considering your listener, you make them feel unheard/unseen. Especially when they’re the ones who came to you to be heard, not to be solved. The solution comes after listening.

- Words said without emotion or connection:
No feeling. No interest. No perspective on how this relates to your listener personally.
To best capture someone’s ears, first capture their hearts.

3) “Words have power. Words are power. Words could be YOUR power. You can Change a Life, Inspire a Nation & make this world a beautiful place. Isn’t what what we all want? Isn’t that why we are ALL in this hall? Your mouth can spit Venom or it can mend a broken soul.”

Words aren’t just a one way street:
- When people talk to you with good intentions sometimes they want something for you, sometimes they want something from you.
- You use words to reach people (advising, teaching, sharing) & sometimes people use words to reach you (advising, asking for help).
- Remember the purpose of your words: Be mindful not to be attached the the “method” or “habit” if it doesn’t serve the purpose.

My Personal Approach to conversations that I coin “Hum.Fo.Po.” = be Humble, be Forgiving, be Polite.

- Humble:
Checks your Ego. People connect better when they don’t feel inferior.

- Forgiving:
Awareness that no one is perfect. Sometimes emotions flare, sometimes wrong words are used. If you’re aware of this, forgive so that you don’t in turn speak from a place of reaction to their reaction which can spiral downwards.

- Polite:
Pretty straight forward. You get much farther being polite than you do being rude.

- Compassion / Empathy:
Before listening, mentally put on the I’m-listening-from-Your-point-of-view-Hat. Put yourself in their shoes. Just like how you would want others to do when you want them to listen.
This will help focus your words around them rather than around you.

“A simple choice of word can make the difference between someone accepting or denying your message” – Mohammed Qahtani