We cannot forgive ourselves but we must understand
Posted on April 14, 2020 by Nermine N, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Why there is no need to forgive ourselves
We often hear that we need to forgive ourselves.
We often try, and often fail.
The reason is: there is nothing to forgive at the first place.
Even in main stream religions, a sin is a sin when one is aware of it but does it anyways.
The proof of your innocence is the INTENTION of your heart.
When you look back at past events, before being devastated by guilt, remember to answer this question honestly: “did I intentionally mean to hurt myself or others?” It is unlikely, and most of us would answer the question negatively.
Remember that, at every moment in time, you are at your highest level of consciousness.
Then, you look back at past events from the point of view of your gained experience and knowledge, and judge yourself, indeed, far harsher than anyone else around you, would.
You were not aware that you were giving your power away, allowing others to try and change you and putting up with a lot of bad “stuff”.
Then, you try to understand why you were not aware, but this is also an attempt to find out to what extend you can be found “guilty”.
You will try to go back in time, diving often into a well that has no bottom, seeking the reasons that made you act, or not, a certain way.
Did your parents warn you but you did not want to listen?
Were you a wild child or inherently bad person?
Were you reacting to a lack of love?
Truth is, it does not matter.
For again, the proof lies within your heart.
Full stop.
This is why you cannot forgive yourself. For you haven’t done harm, to your own “self” and to others.
What really happened, is that you acted from the purity of your heart thinking everyone is like you.
Now, you think you have changed and try to maintain that change at all costs when, again, this is not true.
The natural state of your heart is to be open. Not closed.
Do you know how rare it is to find people, even at an advanced age, that have the capacity of showing pure and authentic feelings?
You tried to change for others and believed them genuinely precisely because you are pure at heart.
So what you need to ask Life is not to change you, but to send you people that will, in fact, appreciate you and your heart.
The first among them, being you, of course.
