Posted on August 26, 2009 by Stephan Wiedner
Picture a team of computer geeks (all males) in an informal meeting sitting in a circle. Now picture them pairing up and looking each other in the eyes for 60 seconds. Can you say awkward?!
Thinking back to our one-hour lunch and learn with Jayson Gaddis last week, I can still feel the awkward tension in the air. But that’s exactly what Jay got us to do because he is on a quest to help dudes in their 20s and 30s step up and be the men they really want to be.
After the first minute of awkwardness, Jay got us to engage in more meaningful conversation. I regard our office of 7 guys and one half-time gal to be pretty fun. We’re all friends and we regularly go out for coffee or grab lunch together. Surprisingly, I found out something new for each of my colleagues that day. And not just a random fact but a deep desire or goal that each of them had.
How did Jayson do that for us? He asked us to stop talking and to listen to our hearts. He came back to the same question several times: “what do you want?” Then he had us ask each other the same question.
The best part was when we had to tell our partners (the person with whom we paired up), on a scale of 1 to 10, how much we believed them when they said they were going to take action on something. We had answers ranging from 3 to 9.5 and it was fun to be so open and honest. This is where the awkwardness was dropped. Suddenly we were getting the real benefit of the earlier work.
We all got to experience the “content” of coaching that day (in spite of the fact that we are constantly fixing our technology of coaching). And for me, I was most impressed by Jayson’s range. He has no problem being a macho guy but he can also address the soft issues of emotions from a position of confidence. Jay would be good to have around whether you are trying to be the heavyweight champion of the world or dealing with the death of a loved one.
About Jayson Gaddis
Jayson Gaddis, LPC, is an expert in male psychology. He’s a life coach and CEO of Revolutionary Man, a company devoted to men in their 20’s and 30’s who are committed to going beyond mainstream, status quo Manhood and men who are committed to reaching fulfillment in ALL areas of their life. Jayson believes guys master their own inner psychology, anything is possible..